Saturday, April 30, 2011

If I Were Anyother Person who would I Be?

Hands down we have all wanted to be someone else at one point or another. Some of us have wanted to be Britney Spears or Halle Berry. For me it has always been one person. It is a celebrity which most people wouldn't give a second thought to. She isn't ultra famous but her name precedes her. She is a rock and roll princess, hell songs have been made for her! Zoe Kravitz!!
 Wow!! She is my all time favorite person ever! I've been her biggest fan for as long as I can remember. I know all her songs, I use to shop in similar places she did to try and emulate her style and type of sophistication/gungy look. She doesn't care what anyone thinks she sets her own trend. She's an actress/singer and student. She goes to school in New York and does most of her films during the summer. Of course her name rings multiple bells because she is the daughter of Lenny Kravitz, a musical genius and Lisa Bonet.









In terms of her style, she can be disheveled at times but that's her, she doesn't care what anyone thinks, much like me. I take much of my sense of self and relate with her on that level.

I got the priviledge of seeing her perform in a store in NYC two summers ago. I was sitting down while she was doing her mic check (me and two others waited while she warmed up). Her managers announced it would be awhile so I sat down and pretended to text someone, in reality I was masking how alone I felt being there all by myself. I thought there'd be a mass amount of ppl and I'd get lost in the crowd, I was wrong. As I sat down, she came over to me and said Hi! I was so shocked and happy all at once! We talked for awhile and even took a picture. Once that was over she and the rest of her band said they were performing and wanted me to come the very next weekend. I was like "I'll be there."

It ended up to be the greatest concert ever. I came by myself and her manager waved at me. Two minutes later he came outside, pointed at me and told me to come. I skipped 50 people, they opened the door for me and gave me a VIP seat. Little did I know Zoe herself requested that I be given a seat. She and her bandmates walked in, handed me drinks, we chatted all night and she performed. I danced, sang and made friends with her. Best Night Ever! Believe it or not, I still keep in touch with her managers who once told me Zoe and her entourage seen me and automatically seen a strong resemblance between us. I was so flattered, on the inside I was shouting aaahhh!!..Best Day Ever!





 These are some of my pics. I told my friends (the same friends that didn't want to go with me!) what happened and they all were absolutely jealous. As of right now, I know I'll never be her..of course not..lol..but it wouldn't hurt to be her friend. When I spoke to her she was so humble and down to earth.










Do I envy her? Uuuhh..yeah! Do I still want to be her? No, not so much.



Of course she's glamourous and a full blown musical princess but her life isn't as perfect as I once thought. She's not perfect, she told me she has a bunch of people publicly bashing her looks, style, etc on public mediums. I get called names constantly on youtube and just laugh it off because essentially those that are calling me names are nobodies. They hold no positions or titles. Those that bash her work for magazines, famous blogs, etc. That would be utterly humiliating for anyone to endure.

Right now she's living her life. Being who she wants and doing what she wants, such as I am. She is a lovely person inside and out, in another life I'd reincarnate myself to be her but for now I'm having fun just being me.









Tuesday, April 26, 2011

The Royal Wedding

Ahhh!!! I cannot wait for the royal wedding of Prince William and Kate. I have always correlated my life with that of Prince William. When he went to school for the first time, I soon followed. I watched him grow up to a lovely, young man and saw my childhood/young adult life correlative with his. Not to mention, he is absolutely gorgeous! He was always well built, tall and even his facial structure was so well defined..picture of perfection even as a young child.




Now seeing him engaged, about to get married and start an entirely new chapter is a joyous time. I have read reports that even the drinks on the table are being measured so that they are aligned uniformly. Someone was quoted as saying " Nothing can go wrong even if they tried." I'm very happy for him, in fact I'm elated!
I watched a show about their life together. It was interesting how she waited for him for 8 years, had no job AND (here's the kicker) she is an ordinary British citizen, who would have thought?! Prince William will marry the common girl next door. His marriage will signify to the world that you don't need to marry money or status, royalty can marry whomever they please. Much like today's society, anyone can marry whomever they want. He told the press he made her wait for so long because his parents are divorced and essentially he didn't want to make the same mistake they did. His father, Prince Charles was in love with Camilla, a commoner (much like Kate) and later remarried her. This just goes to show that divorced parents affects children differently. When Josh and I first met he told me he never respected marriage, his parents divorced and he thought of marriage as "well if I don't like it, I'll just divorce whenever I want to." Essentially in his eyes it's just a long term relationship rather than a vow of eternal togetherness. I view marriage as "there will be high's and lows, but it will be forever."My parents have been married 30 years! I know what marriage is all about.
Prince William and Kate lived together for years so they understand one another habits, strong suits and weaknesses. It awesome to see him finally settling down with her, I have always preferred her for him.

Kate is absolutely exquist and I know Prince William will be making an excellent decision. He understands the vow and respects her immensely, you can tell. They have lived together for years now so his decision is well thought out. I wish him all the best on his marriage and I will be up bright and early at 4am on Friday to watch him marry the woman of his dreams. In my own head, I know my time will soon come but I'm not in a rush. Seemingly like the Prince, marriage is not a game to me.  HOWEVER I did want a sapphire ring and I got one! 

Again, Congratulations Prince William!!


Monday, April 18, 2011

My Style Icon

Everyone has their own celebrity which they see in magazines and want to emulate, in terms of style and dressing.  From as far back as I can remember my style Icon has been Vanessa Hudgens. Some may say..."huh..??" Yes! Vanessa Hudgens! It doesn't matter what magazine she graces, her style is consistent even with evening gowns. She has gone for a bohemian/abercrombie/punk look for as long as I can remember.

She pairs a scarf and boho bag perfectly with her small frame.


The styling of her clothing/shoes and BAGS is SPOT ON in every picture taken of her and I love her re-use of the same bag multiple times with different levels of casual. Not many celebrities can pull it off.

The motorcycle boots fad maybe so last summer but she knows what looks best on her and she does it anyway. Her bohemian/punk style looks so awesome on her. You can tell she is super skinny and short. Wearing high boots, a medium sized shirt and shorts can make her legs seem a bit longer.

She is also my Hair Icon. I love her naturally long cascading curls. Vanessa loves to fluctuate from bangs to middle parts to side parts-also not many can pull this off. I have never seen her hair short unless it was side bun paired with an evening gown or a red carpet photo from an awards show.
She has helped me embrace my small frame. Even flare jeans, which may not be too flattering to short, skinny women looks absolutely gorgeous on her

I wish I could rade her closet!

She makes jeans look out of sight! Whether jean shorts or pants, she pairs it with the perfect shirt and bag. I can guarantee you if you see a picture of Vanessa she will be in a fantastic outfit. She is my Ultimate Style Icon.

Sunday, April 17, 2011

Paying Bills and Yourself


I was talking to a co-worker of mine and she said that she loves paying her bills. I told her eehh not me but it is gratifying to know I have the money to pay them. She said that she has a car note, insurance, mortgage, phone bill, utilities and catholic school for her child. I asked her politely "you pay all those bills by yourself? have you been saving any?" She said no she can't.
This happens to many people and it's for multiple reasons. Either your not getting enough pay or your living above your means. If your paying all your bills and cannot pay yourself first there is something wrong. Pay Yourself First. Save your money! In times of emergency, a car accident, a last minute plane flight or non emergency, remodeling your home, etc we all need a small stash (or perhaps big stash).

Material goods come and go so I don't put much value into them. Purses worth hundreds, yeah i buy one if I want but I never covet or treasure them, it's a purse. The only thing I treasure is people. Family and friends are the people whom I value. I don't pay people on a biweekly basis to love me, they do it voluntarily. The only thing we can take with us when we die are memories and love.

Saturday, April 16, 2011

Should I?

Yes! We all have different textures but we all need to learn to embrace what God gave us. Too often I see women whom don't and end up demolishing the health of their hair. Thin, brittle and weak whether your white or black is not the way you want your hair. I have Caucasian friends who envy my hair, mainly because of the thickness, length and health. Don't for a second believe that all Caucasian people have healthy hair. It may however be easier to maintain.






If I had my way, I'd have hair like her. Not straight at all. The perfect Kinky curly texture, much like my sister's mame. Most people tell me I should grow out my relaxer but why?! I'm just gonna blow and straighten my hair all the time. Imagine straightening this hair every week...not fun.  To be honest this could probably be my hair if I get off of the chemical crack. Should I? Whenever it comes time to relax I get the idea "hey should I just go natural?" but maybe I will stop relaxing...oneday. I'm afraid that no one in corporate America will take me seriously with hair like this. It's less about what I want and more about what my hair says about my persona. I'm still young, I have a long time to think about it.

As far as men go they care more about your natural beauty than anything else. Now It's been 7 months since my last relaxer. Most relaxed women ask themselves this question at least once or twice a year. I'd just hate to go natural and not like the way my hair looked. Hhmm.. this question always enters my mind around the time I absoutely need a perm....we shall see.

Thursday, April 14, 2011

In Times of Fashion

LMAO..I've been cracking up at the OOTD videos I've encountered on youtube. None of them are good. The execution is all wrong and the outfits are sometimes so horrendous I stop watching after 10 seconds. Many people don't know how to dress. I myself grew up in NYC and we have a saying in NY that goes “if you are not in fashion, you are nobody." Everyone has their own style and style is eternal. Some people see themselves as free flowing fashionistas and can change style and fashion with the seasons. 
I follow a few fashion blogs and every single girl is from NYC or So Cal. It seems more often people from big cities have the access to some of the most fashionable clothing (fashionable clothing that isn't high priced rather paired with low priced/thrift shopped items and made to look wonderful). I am the type of person whom when going outside I dress my very best. Not to impress men or woman, rather just to express myself. 




On a typical day in NYC I would dress like this to work. An outfit all together would cost me (not including shoes) no more than 50-60 dollars. As I moved down south I quickly noticed that NO ONE paid any attention to clothes, it is not admired nor thought about. It's aggravating to see people in normal t shirt and jeans all the time, no one lets out any of themselves. The malls are a joke and I have been a victim of the t shirt and jeans conformity but not anymore. I got my hands on a few clothing sites that have such an array of  items. I'm no longer going to feed into the normality of the south rather express myself and be who I once was. i will be doing my own fashion blogs with pictures in the coming months so look out for it :)

Saturday, April 9, 2011

The Carefree Spirits


Man! What I wouldn't give to be this girl. Lying on a train track with nothing to lose, smoking a cigarette (it's something about women who smoke that just exults rugged, carefree and lose), tattoo on her ankle and bra showing through her shirt. I was never this girl. Do I wish I could be her? Yes. Having nothing to lose must be invigorating. I'm guessing she probably dropped out of school at one point in her life, ouch. She's gorgeous! But looks fade, by the time this girl is 30 she will be a devilishly beautiful middle aged woman. So! She roams her town at any hour of night or day, as she pleases. I never got to do that! But...She looks like she has no job, no place to call her own and hangs with the wrong crowd. She can have any man she wants and she looks like she has been with a few dozen. Her number is probably higher than most but what if she has a disease she doesn't know about? Eeehh.. maybe her life isn't so hot after all.

This life may be appealing to teenagers and women in their early twenties but by the time your 25 years old you will ask yourself, what is the purpose of my life? What do I have to offer the world? What will I do with my life? Hopefully this life hasn't completely consumed you and your intellect and you will be able to come up with an answer.

Monday, April 4, 2011

I think it was Michael Jackson who coined this phrase. It's so poignant for today's world, whether your a celebrity or an ordinary person, you feel as the world must change but not you. That isn't the case.

In order for the world to collectively change, everyone must do it. Whether it be to donate your money or time to a greater cause, treat other people better or brighten up the day of an unknown stranger just change. We all have things we must alter about ourselves, no one is perfect. Do something that will be beneficial to the world around us rather than to selfishly contemplate how to better our own life. Better the life of a homeless or sick person once a week or once a month. It will change your perspective on life as you know it. Since high school, I have volunteered at senior citizen homes, after-school tutoring for small lower class children and feeding the homeless. I'm gonna start volunteering at a homeless shelter once a week not for any reason other than to help my community and you should too. Change is within all of us, it is up to you to bring it out.