Sunday, June 26, 2011

Unattractive People Use 5,000 More Words a day than Attractive People

This is a scientific discovery and it's so absolutely TRUE. It actually stunned me when I first heard it. I will not use my looks as an example because we as humans look at ourselves everyday and are so critical on ourselves more than anyother person. I will however use the many people I know. Ever since middle school the most popular person was never the most attractive, it was always THAT girl or THAT guy whom could get people to THINK they were.
They would woe people with their gift of gab, sometimes talking wayy too much but always getting different assortments of people and clicks to relate to them. There was many girls in high school that now as I look back at them on facebook are not at all pretty, they were and still are unattractive actually. However at the time I was envious of them but they were all just blessed with relatable personalities. THAT'S IT. Unattractive people must overly compensate with talking entirely too much. Attractive people do not need much speech to attract a mate or to make others like them, that's a fact.

All attractive men, whom I've met have said very minimal to get me and other women to like them. I like to put myself in that category when it came to captivating the attention of my ex boyfriends and my present boyfriend as well. I literally met Josh at the airport, said two words to him, he in turn said two words to me. I left there and we had probably 3 conversations. When I came off the plane he couldn't stop texting me, I was so confused. I litterally said to myself wait what?. Come to find out he couldn't stop thinking about me, he even flew me out the very next weekend.

With any attractive man it's the same way. They say minimal, you even chat more than they do or create conversations and sometimes you just become enveloped in their physical appearance. Period.

Saturday, June 25, 2011

Church

Growing up in a strict Catholic household I try my best to uphold my religion in my everyday lifestyle. I was the young girl whom would go to church all by myself on some Sundays. Not for any other reason but to listen to the word of God. I see myself doing the same today. I go to church as much as I can and encourage others to as well. In Georgia churches are everywhere. I have a Catholic Church one block away from me in every direction. Every denomination is represented within a half mile radius of my home.

It's funny but you can ignore God for so long but when your in trouble or need direction he's always the first person everyone turns to. I went to mass in College during midterms and finals and sometimes could not get in the door. During Easter Sunday and Lent people come out in drones and it bothers me.  I know people can praise the Lord in their home because I do but why should a religious holiday change that?

I am not perfect. I do call on God when I'm in trouble or times of uncertainty but time has shown me that God sees the people we are. Whether we faithfully pray or try to live life with the  best intentions he sees that. People whom go to church every Sunday and then don't live their life with God in their heart and mind, to me are not fulfilling his wishes (but again it's not for me to judge).

I watch Church television and Joel Osteen is the best preacher I've listened to. I'm into inspirational speakers  and every week he empowers me. It is because of God and him that I have a straight forward mindset. If anyone has any down time and is feeling like they need a progressive spirit, listen to Joel Osteen on Sunday.Here's a clip of one of his great sermons:

Saturday, June 18, 2011

Happy Father's Day Daddy!!!

Ok so my dad isn't reading this but I want to wish my father a very happy father's day! Ohhh man. I cannot say enough about my dad. He's the best! Alittle bit about my dad, he was in the army and left just to marry my mother. He met my mom while he was stationed in Panama, btw. My father worked while my mom went to school in the early years of their marriage. My mother got a high paying job and my dad opted to be an at-home father while my sister and I were younger. Now my father flys airplanes but during the early years, wow my father was my mother, sorta speak.

He is a master at multitasking. He would cook, iron my mom's clothes for work, my uniform for school and then take us all to work and school in the mornings. Food was ready when we came home and he religiously picked us up from school until the age of 8 or 9.  Even now he does some of the same things when he's home from a trip. My father is kind, generous and always put everyone before himself, which is what everyone tells me I do. While my friends grew up with no father or an absent dad (he was there but not there), my dad was the string that held us all together.

He is my rock. I tell him everything, even the day I met Josh I talked non stop about my dad. Josh was so intrigued that when I lived in NYC and my dad flew into Savannah for the night (bc he flys military contracted planes) he called my dad's hotel and asked to take him to dinner. My father approved of Josh and I was on my way to live with him. If my dad approves then it's official in my book.

My dad is so funny. His laugh is contagious. My dad learnt to cook from my mom and completely pushed her out of the kitchen. Now when my mom wants to cook my dad is by her side cooking with her. My father is a southern gentleman, he grew up in Texas and was raised by a Black father from Oklahoma and a Mexican mother, from Mexico City. His parents actually met in Mexico bc his father lived there for most of his life.

He has always instilled the best values in me. "When finding a person to marry always look at yourself and finding the reason they want you, not the reason you want them." "Be the person you're looking for." "Be respectful and kind even when it hurts."

He never laid a hand on me, never beat me or anything. He used to scream! lol..that's for sure, but never beat me. My mom did that enough for him and her put together.lol. He used to actually tell my mom to calm down when she was mad at us. He was the person we ran to at those times. He took us to the park, no one else did. Ever! He went to parent teacher conferences, my teachers all knew him like they knew the mothers. He was part of the PTA at my sister and mine's schools. He is the smartest man I know. He never watches anything but the history channel and reads everyday, whether its the newspaper or an autobiography. I can litterally go on for days about how awesome my father is. Until this day, he supports me. He tells me all the time "the past will always try to have you look back but if you look back you will never see what's in front of you."

I love you Daddy!! Happy Father's Day!!

Thursday, June 16, 2011

Death

I hate to mention death but death is a part of life. I think about it constantly. What if I died? what if someone I loved died what would I do? how would I carry on? I can't answer any of those questions. I am still in shock at the fact that his friend has died. It made me think closely about what he's doing over there. I count the hours until the phone rings. He's so important to me, he's my rock. I never let myself think too much about it, I start crying but it's definitely something I think about, especially considering the circumstances.


I don't know how I would react or even live life knowing I'll never see that person again. The shock of having someone past away is debilitating. I am a firm believer that you must tell people how much you love them and how they make you feel when they are here on earth. The fact of never seeing the person again is mind-blowing. I wish i could see my grandmother just one more time, just to see her face. That's why I love videos. They capture the person just as they were at that point in time, their mannerisms, they're laughter. I made a private video for Josh on our One yr anniversary chronicling what we've been through, pictures, videos, etc. It made us laugh, cry and smile. I love to take videos and I took some weird videos and some very emotional videos at random times throughout our relationship. Not so much to just take a video but to look back and to see how we were. When we're 60 and 70 yrs old, we'll tell people hey that was us! I certainly know, dating someone who's in harm's way how precious each moment is, why not capture it. It will be a reminder for me or even for him if I were to past, how we were.

Josh has a tattoo on his arm that says 'Born to Die". To anyone else not doing what he does, its a pessimistic view on life however to him, its a grim reality he has to bear. Having friends who have died at 23 or 24 years of age he has coped with it but I haven't. I'm learning more and more that death is the only thing that is promised to everyone, when it comes we have to prepared to move on. However no one can be fully prepared to move on and that's a scary reality.

My Perspective on Blogs

I got a link the other day directing me to go to a blog. I was amazed at how much something so childish can surround one's life so much. We do not care nor are we giving it any thought because all the information that was written by a said person was completely fabricated or twisted around to support her very troubled life.  Josh and I have completely moved on in our lives. We have no need to respond to internet blogs or trolls. His ex is no longer apart of our lives, our conversations, or even in our minds. I saw this blog awhile back and felt no need to respond to it. I suggest she do the same. Feeding into such nonsense is for children and we are all adults.This past weekend Josh's friend died in combat and it makes any blog post so insignificant to us.

It brings this war in perspective to me when someone so close to us dies in battle. I can honestly say I've talked and met with his friend, Jeremy and it's so sad to see such a great man past away. My prayers go out to his family, especially his wife Colleen who is such a wonderful person, and their one year old son.

http://www.soc.mil/UNS/Releases/2011/June/110615-01.html

Monday, June 6, 2011

Military Wives

Being married to the military is very tough! Knowing your husband is in harms way everyday is a humongous burden to carry! Being alone, sometimes with children that you practically raise solely is tiring and stifling. It's also not an ideal setting for new couples trying to get to know one another, there's no way of fully learning about the other person until they have a long stretch of actually being home. 

Military wives have the very arduous task of maintaining a home and family by themselves for upwards of a year and a half! HOWEVER  it can be done with the right tools. I have met countless wives who are 20 or 21 years old, stay at home and have inundated themselves with their husband's military career without focusing on their own. If you know a military wife, you know that she wears her husbands rank, for example, a Sgt's wife thinks she should demand more respect than that of a Private's wife. Why? 

If more military wives were more financially independent and career-minded, their husband's career achievements would be just that, His! not yours! I've seen my own friends get divorced and left on the side of the road. They never took the time to dispel themselves from their significant other and establish themselves before or during the marriage. A mistake made countless times by military wives. 
Military Pay is not all that good. When you have 4 children, the military DOES NOT pay per head. You get pay with dependents and pay without dependents. Many in the military get married to collect BAH, if you're a lower ranking individual it can increase your pay significantly. Which is why the divorce rate is so high. People have nothing to lose, if you divorce you'll still collect BAH most of the time. 

Wives can find themselves in the poor house sometimes. Collecting from food drives is a weekly routine for many wives for the simple fact that they THOUGHT their husbands made a good salary. Adding up all your expenses plus his, plus you have no job, makes for meager living conditions. My friend Hynotik said it best in her video. I watched this about a year ago and agreed. NOW actually being in the military world I agreed wholeheartedly that military wives must establish their own life outside the military because tomorrow is never promised. He can leave you, suddenly or not. Bad things happen all the time and women must be able to support themselves. I love this video.