Military Wives

Being married to the military is very tough! Knowing your husband is in harms way everyday is a humongous burden to carry! Being alone, sometimes with children that you practically raise solely is tiring and stifling. It's also not an ideal setting for new couples trying to get to know one another, there's no way of fully learning about the other person until they have a long stretch of actually being home. 

Military wives have the very arduous task of maintaining a home and family by themselves for upwards of a year and a half! HOWEVER  it can be done with the right tools. I have met countless wives who are 20 or 21 years old, stay at home and have inundated themselves with their husband's military career without focusing on their own. If you know a military wife, you know that she wears her husbands rank, for example, a Sgt's wife thinks she should demand more respect than that of a Private's wife. Why? 

If more military wives were more financially independent and career-minded, their husband's career achievements would be just that, His! not yours! I've seen my own friends get divorced and left on the side of the road. They never took the time to dispel themselves from their significant other and establish themselves before or during the marriage. A mistake made countless times by military wives. 

Military Pay is not all that good. When you have 4 children, the military DOES NOT pay per head. You get pay with dependents and pay without dependents. Many in the military get married to collect BAH, if you're a lower ranking individual it can increase your pay significantly. Which is why the divorce rate is so high. People have nothing to lose, if you divorce you'll still collect BAH most of the time. 

Wives can find themselves in the poor house sometimes. Collecting from food drives is a weekly routine for many wives for the simple fact that they THOUGHT their husbands made a good salary. Adding up all your expenses plus his, plus you have no job, makes for meager living conditions. My friend Hynotik said it best in her video. I watched this about a year ago and agreed. NOW actually being in the military world I agreed wholeheartedly that military wives must establish their own life outside the military because tomorrow is never promised. He can leave you, suddenly or not. Bad things happen all the time and women must be able to support themselves. I love this video.