Closure

Some of us never gain closure from past relationships. It's a fact that those whom never gain closure, never fall out of love with that person OR constantly rekindle feelings and memories over that person. As women, I think its imperative that we don't fall victim to love.

I've stated before I have an ex boyfriend whom I did not give closure to. I did not sit him down and say 'it's over" in those words. I did not call, facebook message, anything after, in my mind, I was done with the relationship. Its tough too because I value him as a person and I'm not the one to hurt anyone's feelings.

After you've had multiple long term relationships, you realize that relationships are to be worked on by each party CONSTANTLY, not something to flaunt and believe is stable forever.  Relationships can end if each person isn't willing to put in the work which I wasn't willing to do with my ex, mainly because I was selfish.

Women especially will never gain closure. Men are good with dealing with reality (if they have to), not women.  Once a man says its over,don't ever speak or see her again. She will get the impression you still want to be with her or there's still a chance for you guys. I was also faced with this in my first relationship. I was so in love with him that I kept accepting him back anyway or anytime I could. After it was completely over I cried for 4 days straight!  Nonstop because I got closure, I cried, I rekindled memories, etc and then after those 4 days, it was over. Never cried or really thought about him much again. It's surprising how a 4 year relationship can not mean so much anymore 4 years later of course.

I'm not asking everyone to gain closure from past relationships because that's simply not gonna happen but if you ever enter and leave a relationship make sure it's done properly. If not done properly it can hinder the next relationship you enter into. Either you won't  entirely love that person(bc your heart and mind are with another) or because the old person may be bitter and disrupt your new relationship.