Morals and Women

Growing up we all take different paths. We all start from the same line and zoom off in different directions. It's sad how some of us end up. Drug addictions, struggling with children and/or unhappy with where life has taken them. Blame no one but yourselves.

High morals and standards is what I've always had. Doing well in school was not enough for my parents, they wanted me to excel in other things, dance, piano, karate, social settings, etc. A black belt in karate, being the best dancer, etc I learned quickly you can't always make your parents proud however you don't have to lower your own moral values in order to gratify an urge you have. Be aware of your priorities, goals and people whom you let enter your space.

As little children, we are all taught differently and we all tend to listen/obey at different times. I obeyed my parents to the fullest extent. I never questioned them or back talked, I was obedient and conscience of everything they told me, always! not sometimes. Some may say that is the reason why I didn't date until College or stayed single for years after my first relationship ended, I never needed anyone to complete me.

I was never ever told by my parents to find a man that can support/provide for me. My father always told me "you need to find the reason why a man would want to add you into their life. What do you have to offer someone? Provide for yourself and don't rely on any one to do it for you if you can't do it for them, etc." My mom tells me more often than none roles often change in long term relationships, people lose their jobs, etc and you need be able to stay above water. If you incorporate someone into your life, keep them afloat as well. It's a partnership, not a one man business.  My parents know about life and relationships, more than half of their life has been spent together. Through the ups and downs, my parents supported each other at different times and to this day have their separate identities. They're separate lives, they're separate hobbies and interests even very different personalities. They've tried to instill a great amount of life education into me however there's no way of really learning something until you've experienced it.

Having to grow up a woman is not easy. You learn these things the hard way or the easy way. I knew these principals from an early age that's why when entering into a relationship, any relationship I never seen it as what can this person offer me? I thought of it as is this person at a stable place in his life? does he know what he want to do as a career? If i was aware that this person is serious about his life and loved me (and vise versa) then i knew we could build a future together.

My financial future never relied on someone else's paycheck. Ladies, I will never be able to say this enough. If you know what you want go after it but think about why you want it and if it will be the best thing for you! Men come and go but a degree is forever. Love yourself first. Be the person you would want to be with. Make yourself irresistible. Can't cook, learn! Out of shape, exercise! If your broke, spend a day handing out resumes to retail companies or any small store that's hiring so you'll have money coming in (even if it's not as much as you would like). Spend your money right! Put money away for the future and never spend more because you have more. My mom's an accountant and as far as my financial responsibilities goes, she has schooled me well.

Also, just remember be a lady! No man wants to be with another man friend. Josh's bff Lonzo came to visit and told Josh that as far as women went I was the best woman he's ever had. I was a lady however I'm very down to earth. Men will be men however as far as respecting me, all men know just by looking at me that I demand respect. If more women were like that, there'd be less gangbangs..lol..

St. Patty's Day

It seems like so long ago now but my first St. Patty's Day in Savannah was a blast! Josh marches in the parade every year along with the rest of his army colleagues. The Savannah tradition is the wives/gf's/random teenagers apply red lipstick and kiss the soldiers as they approach.

I have a friend (who happens to be a lieutenant in the Army) whom I hung out with most of the day. We drank Mimosas, vodka and orange juice, four lokos and many other things I can't remember..lol. After Josh got released, he started to drink and that's when the fun began!

Upon ending Day 1 of St. Patty's Day, I didn't expect the festivities could get more reckless however the weekend was just as crazy. Josh's bff from his hometown came here. We all went to eat, chatted for a bit then off to the bar we went. We drank endlessly all weekend, which is the St. Patty's tradition and had a genuinely great time. After drinking, everyone needs a Turkey leg..lol.

Upon initially meeting Josh, he begged me to stay for St. Patty's Day but I didn't. However I don't know if I would have had a better time than I did this year. And! what was hilarious was that Josh did a youtube video about a lady staring at us at Golden Coral. Upon eating this turkey leg, she called out to us and said "aren't you the couple I seen at Golden Coral awhile back?" We laughed and said "ugh..yeah." She replied "Yes, I remember you two.. small world." We didn't recognize her. She dyed her hair black and... to be honest, we both just remembered her hair being orange, not her facial features. I don't know how she remembered us but I'm guessing it was because she was staring pretty attentively the entire time at Golden Coral. It made for a very awkward meal but meeting her out in the crowd that night we could care less.