Growing up we all take different paths. We all start from the same line and zoom off in different directions. It's sad how some of us end up. Drug addictions, struggling with children and/or unhappy with where life has taken them. Blame no one but yourselves.
High morals and standards is what I've always had. Doing well in school was not enough for my parents, they wanted me to excel in other things, dance, piano, karate, social settings, etc. A black belt in karate, being the best dancer, etc I learned quickly you can't always make your parents proud however you don't have to lower your own moral values in order to gratify an urge you have. Be aware of your priorities, goals and people whom you let enter your space.
As little children, we are all taught differently and we all tend to listen/obey at different times. I obeyed my parents to the fullest extent. I never questioned them or back talked, I was obedient and conscience of everything they told me, always! not sometimes. Some may say that is the reason why I didn't date until College or stayed single for years after my first relationship ended, I never needed anyone to complete me.
I was never ever told by my parents to find a man that can support/provide for me. My father always told me "you need to find the reason why a man would want to add you into their life. What do you have to offer someone? Provide for yourself and don't rely on any one to do it for you if you can't do it for them, etc." My mom tells me more often than none roles often change in long term relationships, people lose their jobs, etc and you need be able to stay above water. If you incorporate someone into your life, keep them afloat as well. It's a partnership, not a one man business. My parents know about life and relationships, more than half of their life has been spent together. Through the ups and downs, my parents supported each other at different times and to this day have their separate identities. They're separate lives, they're separate hobbies and interests even very different personalities. They've tried to instill a great amount of life education into me however there's no way of really learning something until you've experienced it.
Having to grow up a woman is not easy. You learn these things the hard way or the easy way. I knew these principals from an early age that's why when entering into a relationship, any relationship I never seen it as what can this person offer me? I thought of it as is this person at a stable place in his life? does he know what he want to do as a career? If i was aware that this person is serious about his life and loved me (and vise versa) then i knew we could build a future together.
My financial future never relied on someone else's paycheck. Ladies, I will never be able to say this enough. If you know what you want go after it but think about why you want it and if it will be the best thing for you! Men come and go but a degree is forever. Love yourself first. Be the person you would want to be with. Make yourself irresistible. Can't cook, learn! Out of shape, exercise! If your broke, spend a day handing out resumes to retail companies or any small store that's hiring so you'll have money coming in (even if it's not as much as you would like). Spend your money right! Put money away for the future and never spend more because you have more. My mom's an accountant and as far as my financial responsibilities goes, she has schooled me well.
Also, just remember be a lady! No man wants to be with another man friend. Josh's bff Lonzo came to visit and told Josh that as far as women went I was the best woman he's ever had. I was a lady however I'm very down to earth. Men will be men however as far as respecting me, all men know just by looking at me that I demand respect. If more women were like that, there'd be less gangbangs..lol..
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Thursday, March 31, 2011
Tuesday, March 29, 2011
St. Patty's Day
It seems like so long ago now but my first St. Patty's Day in Savannah was a blast! Josh marches in the parade every year along with the rest of his army colleagues. The Savannah tradition is the wives/gf's/random teenagers apply red lipstick and kiss the soldiers as they approach.
I have a friend (who happens to be a lieutenant in the Army) whom I hung out with most of the day. We drank Mimosas, vodka and orange juice, four lokos and many other things I can't remember..lol. After Josh got released, he started to drink and that's when the fun began!
Upon ending Day 1 of St. Patty's Day, I didn't expect the festivities could get more reckless however the weekend was just as crazy. Josh's bff from his hometown came here. We all went to eat, chatted for a bit then off to the bar we went. We drank endlessly all weekend, which is the St. Patty's tradition and had a genuinely great time. After drinking, everyone needs a Turkey leg..lol.
Upon initially meeting Josh, he begged me to stay for St. Patty's Day but I didn't. However I don't know if I would have had a better time than I did this year. And! what was hilarious was that Josh did a youtube video about a lady staring at us at Golden Coral. Upon eating this turkey leg, she called out to us and said "aren't you the couple I seen at Golden Coral awhile back?" We laughed and said "ugh..yeah." She replied "Yes, I remember you two.. small world." We didn't recognize her. She dyed her hair black and... to be honest, we both just remembered her hair being orange, not her facial features. I don't know how she remembered us but I'm guessing it was because she was staring pretty attentively the entire time at Golden Coral. It made for a very awkward meal but meeting her out in the crowd that night we could care less.
I have a friend (who happens to be a lieutenant in the Army) whom I hung out with most of the day. We drank Mimosas, vodka and orange juice, four lokos and many other things I can't remember..lol. After Josh got released, he started to drink and that's when the fun began!
Monday, March 28, 2011
My Number One Must Visit Destination
One acquaintance of mine took her tuition money for a semester of grad school and went backpacking through Europe! Looking at her amazing pictures and the amazing places she visited was nothing short of magnificent! I stumbled upon some of her pictures she took on the island of Santorini and fell in love. I made this destination my number one place I want to visit before I die. I want to one day lay out on Red beach and relax in the European sun.Of course some may not find this place as appealing as I do. The sheer awkwardness of the red sand and gravel on the beach isn't appealing to many however I find it amazing that a place like this exists.
As far as my other need-to-go destinations of course they range from the extroadinary to the very mundane. I've been to half of them already however if I had to make a list it would go like this:
10. Trinidad and Tobago ( for the food mostly. I seen an episode of Anthony Bourdain and wanted the food sooo badly)
9. Paris, France
8. Prague, Czech republic
7. London, England
6. Cabo san lucas, Mexico(Love it there!)
5: Italy (Naples)
4. Sorrento, Italy
3.Ibiza, Spain
2. Ios, Greece
1. Island of Santorini, Greece
Wednesday, March 23, 2011
The Joys of Pregnancy
To be an average 16 year old girl and pregnant poses so many issues however being 26 and pregnant can pose different issues but issues nonetheless. I can sit here and lists things that are absolutely revolting such as morning sickness, skin discoloration, extreme cramping, stretch marks (not only on your stomach, you can get stretch marks on your rear end as well) and even postpartum hair loss. If anyone is pregnant or was pregnant the mere shock of the news is frightening enough, to think of child birth and raising a life form is terrifying.
I don't find any joys in being pregnant- at least physically. If your lucky enough to have a wonderful partner and amazing family, you will be fine but emotionally you'll still be a wreck. I came across this book in Barnes and Nobles and thought it was an oxymoron. I would advise women that want children in the future to wait until they can provide a stable household, they are ready mentally and professionally for a child and make sure you have a good support system. I could be 19 or 31 but if I do not have a job, no income, no baby daddy it doesn't matter what age you are, you're probably not ready.
I think the ultimate joy of pregnancy is the end when you get to hold your baby. My mom always told me "when you see your child you'll really know what love is."
I don't find any joys in being pregnant- at least physically. If your lucky enough to have a wonderful partner and amazing family, you will be fine but emotionally you'll still be a wreck. I came across this book in Barnes and Nobles and thought it was an oxymoron. I would advise women that want children in the future to wait until they can provide a stable household, they are ready mentally and professionally for a child and make sure you have a good support system. I could be 19 or 31 but if I do not have a job, no income, no baby daddy it doesn't matter what age you are, you're probably not ready.
I think the ultimate joy of pregnancy is the end when you get to hold your baby. My mom always told me "when you see your child you'll really know what love is."
Monday, March 7, 2011
Pimples!
Ugh.. As I sit here writing this post, it almost makes me wanna cry. I have battled with Acne since I was 15 yrs old. In High school all the girls would say how low my confidence was because I walked with my head down wherever I went. It wasn't that I had low confidence by nature but how could I look at people in the face? Makeup didn't help, if you have a bump on your face, you can still see it no matter how much concealer you apply.
Both my parents had bad skin as young adults and now they're skin is flawless. My mother took me to world reknown dermatologists all through high school and college. Nothing ever helped. I was even put on Accutane, which as you know causes major sideaffects such as depression but I didn't care. Hell, I was depressed everyday because of my face. It actually did help however, alittle bit. I've never had ultra clear skin, I actually always envied the people that did. There was one point I did not have a clear spot on my skin. Going to sleep crying, praying to God for it to go away, trying any and everything I could get my hands on, seeing doctors, getting facials, nothing helped. My acne to this day shows up around my menstrual cycle, as an indication that it's going to being soon but I don't have the major problems as I once did.
Acne can also come at any age. One of my good friends in College had wonderful skin, my roomate at the time one day complimented her saying how gorgeous her skin was. She left school and a couple months later we reunited and she had pimples all over her face. I couldn't believe it, her skin was flawless. She told me that she had started breaking out and it won't stop. I could offer her no help because I was having the same issues. Her and I tried Proactiv together and it did nothing for both of us. We used it for eight months. After that I used Proactiv two other times, this time for years and my skin was still breaking out. Well now, I have finally found MY cure.
One of my good friends recommended birth control tablets and Dr. Miracles Skin System. The entire system is twenty bucks in the pharmacy. I was like "this won't work but i'll try anything." My skin did a 360. My skin is finally smooth and the clearest it has ever been. I am an avid youtube watcher, as you know and MakeupbyLeina said something that almost made me want to cry because I knew exactly what she meant. Here's her video. She uses another system and I intend to use it in the coming months. Here's her video.
Both my parents had bad skin as young adults and now they're skin is flawless. My mother took me to world reknown dermatologists all through high school and college. Nothing ever helped. I was even put on Accutane, which as you know causes major sideaffects such as depression but I didn't care. Hell, I was depressed everyday because of my face. It actually did help however, alittle bit. I've never had ultra clear skin, I actually always envied the people that did. There was one point I did not have a clear spot on my skin. Going to sleep crying, praying to God for it to go away, trying any and everything I could get my hands on, seeing doctors, getting facials, nothing helped. My acne to this day shows up around my menstrual cycle, as an indication that it's going to being soon but I don't have the major problems as I once did.
Acne can also come at any age. One of my good friends in College had wonderful skin, my roomate at the time one day complimented her saying how gorgeous her skin was. She left school and a couple months later we reunited and she had pimples all over her face. I couldn't believe it, her skin was flawless. She told me that she had started breaking out and it won't stop. I could offer her no help because I was having the same issues. Her and I tried Proactiv together and it did nothing for both of us. We used it for eight months. After that I used Proactiv two other times, this time for years and my skin was still breaking out. Well now, I have finally found MY cure.
One of my good friends recommended birth control tablets and Dr. Miracles Skin System. The entire system is twenty bucks in the pharmacy. I was like "this won't work but i'll try anything." My skin did a 360. My skin is finally smooth and the clearest it has ever been. I am an avid youtube watcher, as you know and MakeupbyLeina said something that almost made me want to cry because I knew exactly what she meant. Here's her video. She uses another system and I intend to use it in the coming months. Here's her video.
Friday, March 4, 2011
The Army!
All I know is that I've never had more respect for the men and women fighting overseas than I do right now.
You hear women all the time talk about not having their "soldier" around because he's away, that is an understatement. I was talking to an army wife last year, the day before the military ball, she said "I have been married two years and probably actually only been around him for about 8 months." Her statement resonated in my head. I thought at the time that ordinary people could never have a stable relationship like that but I was wrong, well at least in my case.
Josh is currently away, I cannot tell you what he's doing or where but what I can say is that loneliness is eminent if your dating military. Most men, like my cousin, are gone for an entire year with only a two week vacation to go home. Having three children on top of that isn't ideal.
All I can say is that it may not be ideal, if you cannot handle being away from someone for long periods of time and always need attention from your mate, a military man is not for you. Days go by and you don't get a phone call and then there are days he'll call 20 times in one day.
Our one year anniversary is coming up on March 26th..yeayy, we've been living together since May but Ive been living with him physically in my presence for seven months, if I discount his deployment period. This is the video that had me in tears during our last deployment. I love this video and would watch it multiple times over and still cry every time.
I'm not alot of maintenance, highly independent but I wonder and worry about those wives who have no job and stay home to raise children. Everyday must be so long and stressful not having that helping hand there. It does seem like this will be a long stretch of coming months where he'll be gone. I think about him every second of the day. It's not fair but who ever said life was fair.
You hear women all the time talk about not having their "soldier" around because he's away, that is an understatement. I was talking to an army wife last year, the day before the military ball, she said "I have been married two years and probably actually only been around him for about 8 months." Her statement resonated in my head. I thought at the time that ordinary people could never have a stable relationship like that but I was wrong, well at least in my case.
Josh is currently away, I cannot tell you what he's doing or where but what I can say is that loneliness is eminent if your dating military. Most men, like my cousin, are gone for an entire year with only a two week vacation to go home. Having three children on top of that isn't ideal.
All I can say is that it may not be ideal, if you cannot handle being away from someone for long periods of time and always need attention from your mate, a military man is not for you. Days go by and you don't get a phone call and then there are days he'll call 20 times in one day.
Our one year anniversary is coming up on March 26th..yeayy, we've been living together since May but Ive been living with him physically in my presence for seven months, if I discount his deployment period. This is the video that had me in tears during our last deployment. I love this video and would watch it multiple times over and still cry every time.
I'm not alot of maintenance, highly independent but I wonder and worry about those wives who have no job and stay home to raise children. Everyday must be so long and stressful not having that helping hand there. It does seem like this will be a long stretch of coming months where he'll be gone. I think about him every second of the day. It's not fair but who ever said life was fair.
Wednesday, March 2, 2011
You need the right genetics to be Successful on youtube
LOL. OMG, somepeople may be shocked that I'm writing this post but it needs to be said.What is up with guru's who know just as much as the average girl and getting a thousand subscribers a day? I glanced at a couple youtube guru pages and needless to say, they were gorgeous! There is one really famous youtube guru who has outright said she has an apartment by the beach, an advertisement deal and lives off of her youtube money. For all those that didn't know, YES people make money off of doing youtube videos. Not me, but famous people like Fred, Shane Dawson and NigaHiga make upwards of $10k a month.
They mostly do comedy but there is a girl who does beauty but she basically gets views because she is pretty. She doesn't know that much about beauty and/or fashion.
It makes me mad to watch her videos sometimes because I'm just another view she gets paid for BUT she has a captivated audience. I DO watch her weekly because honestly, no homo,(lol) I want to see her. Is that weird? She is funny, not so much articulate and blabbers for days about herself but I can't get enough of seeing her. It's not just me either, its my friends as well. My bff posted her video on her facebook yesterday. I immediately wrote under it "You know of her too huh." She wrote back "I love her and I don't know why."
I can't knock her because I know there are thousands of girls who tune in weekly for the same reason. Girls want to know what she buys, where she lives and what she did yesterday(because essentially she has no job). She is selling a great brand, herself. As a little girl I wanted to be Stacey Dash. I watched all her movies and shows religiously and tried to act just like her..funny story..Josh and I were at a pizzeria and the cashier looks at me and says "Your really pretty just like that girl in that Richard Pryor Movie and in Clueless." I said "Stacey Dash?" She said "Yess that's it!" OMG..that made my week.Anywayzzz..
After this guru, there are a few other girls who are following her lead. She has created a following. For example, there is a girl who started a youtube page probably 3 months ago and has more than one thousand subscribers with two videos uploaded! I watched her vids and they didn't impress me but again she was gorgeous.
Moral of the story is: girls watch naturally beautiful guru's most of the time to learn their beauty tricks but there is no trick into becoming beautiful or looking like them, not even makeup. Just love yourself, be genuine and try not to imitate anyone.
They mostly do comedy but there is a girl who does beauty but she basically gets views because she is pretty. She doesn't know that much about beauty and/or fashion.
It makes me mad to watch her videos sometimes because I'm just another view she gets paid for BUT she has a captivated audience. I DO watch her weekly because honestly, no homo,(lol) I want to see her. Is that weird? She is funny, not so much articulate and blabbers for days about herself but I can't get enough of seeing her. It's not just me either, its my friends as well. My bff posted her video on her facebook yesterday. I immediately wrote under it "You know of her too huh." She wrote back "I love her and I don't know why."
I can't knock her because I know there are thousands of girls who tune in weekly for the same reason. Girls want to know what she buys, where she lives and what she did yesterday(because essentially she has no job). She is selling a great brand, herself. As a little girl I wanted to be Stacey Dash. I watched all her movies and shows religiously and tried to act just like her..funny story..Josh and I were at a pizzeria and the cashier looks at me and says "Your really pretty just like that girl in that Richard Pryor Movie and in Clueless." I said "Stacey Dash?" She said "Yess that's it!" OMG..that made my week.Anywayzzz..
After this guru, there are a few other girls who are following her lead. She has created a following. For example, there is a girl who started a youtube page probably 3 months ago and has more than one thousand subscribers with two videos uploaded! I watched her vids and they didn't impress me but again she was gorgeous.
Moral of the story is: girls watch naturally beautiful guru's most of the time to learn their beauty tricks but there is no trick into becoming beautiful or looking like them, not even makeup. Just love yourself, be genuine and try not to imitate anyone.
Charlie Sheen, What Went Wrong?
When the redundancies of life are boring, you have to change it up. No more drugs and no muzzle on his mouth. I never thought twice of Charlie Sheen, I never had an opinion of him. I loved him in Wall Street and his show is-or now was-my mother's favorite show. Telling people "I had a disease and I cured it, it was called Bullshit." "I'm not Bi-polar, I'm Bi-Winning." My personal favorite was when a reporter asked him "One of the girls said she almost O-Deed hanging out with you." and he exclaimed, while putting a cigarette in his mouth "So what does that have to do with me?"
Clearly he is mad and going on a rampage against the Producer and the network. He is also very confident and blunt and that's what I love about him! I love people who are blunt and will tell you as they see it. Charlie Sheen has been this way his entire life and his former publicist tried his hardest to mask this but he can't be stopped. After I graduated college, I wanted to dabble in becoming a publicist. No one has any idea how quick moving and never ending that job really is. Just being an intern was a 24/7 job, I soon moved on to a career in politics which was the same (24/7, celebrities everywhere and no vacation).
I met, and un-namingly dated a few celebrities. It seems like a very glamorous lifestyle from the outside looking in, however it isn't. Behind the red carpets, parties, galas, socials, and even secret circles, there are people who are dying to break out of their shell and rebel against the normality of their lives. Charlie Sheen is an example of this, with no publicist or good management, in my opinion, he has flown off the deep end and now had his children taken away-I doubt if he cares too much if at all about them tho. I wonder if in a month from now he issues a public apology to CBS and the producer? after he receives his money of course. That's the name of the game anyway, politics, money, publicity and money. I guess he will soon learn his antics will not shine the best light on him in a courthouse or on the settlement table-well experience is the best teacher I always say.
Clearly he is mad and going on a rampage against the Producer and the network. He is also very confident and blunt and that's what I love about him! I love people who are blunt and will tell you as they see it. Charlie Sheen has been this way his entire life and his former publicist tried his hardest to mask this but he can't be stopped. After I graduated college, I wanted to dabble in becoming a publicist. No one has any idea how quick moving and never ending that job really is. Just being an intern was a 24/7 job, I soon moved on to a career in politics which was the same (24/7, celebrities everywhere and no vacation).
I met, and un-namingly dated a few celebrities. It seems like a very glamorous lifestyle from the outside looking in, however it isn't. Behind the red carpets, parties, galas, socials, and even secret circles, there are people who are dying to break out of their shell and rebel against the normality of their lives. Charlie Sheen is an example of this, with no publicist or good management, in my opinion, he has flown off the deep end and now had his children taken away-I doubt if he cares too much if at all about them tho. I wonder if in a month from now he issues a public apology to CBS and the producer? after he receives his money of course. That's the name of the game anyway, politics, money, publicity and money. I guess he will soon learn his antics will not shine the best light on him in a courthouse or on the settlement table-well experience is the best teacher I always say.
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